“Having It All” The Hustle!
So …are you willing to do what it takes to grow your business or take life to the level you’re wanting?
I remember a past mentor asking me this over and over again. That voice is still engrained in my head. Are you willing to do what it takes? This was a great question because it made me stop and think. Well, who are we kidding, I didn’t need to stop and think about this….I was a wholehearted yes right away!! It did help me define what this meant though.
The thing is, what this meant to me at that time and what it means to me now have changed significantly. At first it meant hustle and only hustle. Do whatever it takes to make things work. Put in a ton of time and make the business the priority always. Never stop. It didn’t matter if I was tired, burned out, and if relationships were unraveling around me, the focus must be the business. AND for goodness sake, do not EVER and I repeat EVER use your kids, family or relationships as an excuse for stopping.
Noted, and executed.
Well, what kind of existence is that? It sounds exhausting right? Well it was. I realized a couple of years ago, that all I was doing was eating, breathing and sleeping my business. I took the question to heart, as I can be pretty black and white sometimes.
It dawned on me that I didn’t really have my priorities straight. I did get married and have kids for a reason, right?! I was so focuses on being of service in my business, that I missed it at home. This led to a complete reassessment, some rebellious behavior In terms of the coaching industry and a BREAK from it all. I continued to work with the clients I had and kept it low key from there. I focused on giving and receiving love at home and all around me. It was heavenly.
I did some pretty in depth studying of my life and the idea of “going it alone” and “having it all” and had some massive shifts around the ego and our true selves. I discovered what true inner peace is.
SO…that’s all great, but how does this look in business today?
Well, whenever I get in this “do what it takes” mode I can see it’s coming from fear and ego. When I approach my clients from this place it doesn’t work. It’s too harsh.
What does work is this:
*aligning myself with the best version of me and making decisions from this place (this is where self-care comes in)
*exercising a strong faith muscle where I believe and know FULLY that the universe (for me it’s God, the holy spirit and some pretty rad arc angels) is always showing me more and more people to help and how to be of service AND that I’m never, ever alone
*financial goals are secondary to being of service
*creating a life I love with the people I love, in a way that works for me- this includes putting my family first NO MATTER WHAT!
*having the support in pace in both my business and personal life so that I can be the person I need to be
*persevering and not taking no (in terms of my vision) for an answer and knowing without a doubt there is ALWAYS a way to make things happen
*AND last but not least, HUSTLE!!!! This is where the “willingness to do what it takes” comes into effect in an empowered way! We must be willing to do what we need to do in order to bring all of the wonderful opportunities we are creating into the physical form (to fruition). It will not happen without inspired action. The shift in perspective I’ve had around this though is just this. It is inspired action. It doesn’t feel like work because I’m coming from a place of trust and love first, and not fear. It’s exciting to bring opportunities to fruition and see them though. It involves “hustle” as I call it, as you have to keep taking action until it’s complete. You have to pick up the phone repeatedly, meet with people, etc. and do whatever else is required. You essentially need to BE who you need to be in order to bring the opportunities to fruition. That means stepping out of your comfort zone, and doing things differently and being WILLING to do this. The willingness really means being willing to move through uncomfortable feelings so that you can be in alignment with what you’re really wanting.
The biggest difference is that when you’re in the place I outlined above, you are not coming from fear. It’s not a struggle. The way I approached this before was coming from fear. Afraid I wasn’t spending enough time and really deep down if I’m being honest, that it wasn’t going to actually happen. The irony though is that even though I was putting so much into it before and “willing’ to do whatever it took, it started happening on a much deeper level once I shifted to this new perspective. Where opportunities to serve manifest without struggle, and hustle serves an inspired purpose of bringing them to fruition.
I just wanted to share a little bit of myself with you. As we all move thru life….